Look, I know you’re thinking about baseball stats or that weird noise your car is making. But here’s the trick: make eye contact. Not the creepy, unblinking stare of a serial killer, but the soft, “I am present” gaze of a golden retriever who just heard the word “treat.” Nod occasionally, and say “Wow, that’s crazy” at random intervals. This works 94% of the time.
Pro tip: Never say “Just calm down” when she’s venting. Saying that is the marital equivalent of grabbing a hot pan with your bare hands. Instead, try: “I can see why that would bother you.” This is the verbal equivalent of a fire extinguisher. Use it liberally.
